Hello All!
Any of my regular readers and anyone who I have been following for a while will have noticed that I’ve been far less present lately with posting and visiting! It’s been pretty crazy here this season!! I promise I’ll be back to full form in the New Year when life has settled….. Does that EVER really happen?? 🤔
I’m any case, I haven’t had a huge amount of time to read, sadly. So, my Twelve Days of Christmas Reads has kind of gone to the wayside this year… What I HAVE had time for (since it’s so much easier to do when I have 2 seconds to clean the house or something) is to watch ridiculous amounts of Hallmark Christmas movies…. And some of them have left me with some deep questions!
Question #1 comes from the movie Eve’s Christmas
So, you are a hard working business woman (of course) who made the choice to run out on your wedding and take a job in the big city, only to discover that you only got the job based on your looks and that your boss (married, with children) just wanted to sleep with you. You are drunk and unhappy and you call your ex-fiance only to have a woman pick up the phone and to hear your ex in the background saying “Honey? Who is it?” CLEARLY, he’s moved on.
So, you wish on a Christmas Star and suddenly you wake up back in 1996. You have 7 days to decide whether you want to change your future and stay with Scott, or if you want to stay with the life you had. But, you’re going back to 2004 regardless. WHAT DO YOU CHOOSE??
Well, my question wasn’t WHAT DO YOU CHOOSE? It was…. WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE??
How can it be completely up to her whether she gets to change this decision or not?? Scott had a life in this other reality, as well! He could have a wife and kids, a great job… HE COULD BE HAPPY!! Who says this woman is so great that he would give all of that up to be with HER if given the chance!! No one even asked his opinion! Isn’t that a little unfair?
The other question that I had was the fact that she went back to 1996, but still had all of the knowledge of her life in 2004. She was still that person. So, when she gets sent back to 2004 after the 7 days will she remember being back in time? If she chooses to stay with Scott and have a life with him, will she remember the years they had together? Or will she go back to 8 years later and remember nothing of those years, but they’re together??
It’s all so confusing!
What are your thoughts on the dilemma’s of Time Travel?? Should Eve get to make these decisions for everyone?? What do you think would happen upon her return to the future? And, how would all of you deal with this situation??
This is very troubling indeed! Scott should also get to keep his memories so he can make the same decision. If they choose the same thing, they keep memories related to the choice. If they don’t, Eve keeps her memories of all of it to remind her not to be a selfish second guesser next time she’s faced with choices… Apparently, I’m filled with the Christmas spirit this Tuesday morning. 😇
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That sounds like a great compromise!! But, it’s not how Hallmark chose to do it! Ha ha! Your way is much more fair. Poor Scott just doesn’t even get choices in his own life…. 😒 He just gets dragged along wherever this floozy decides he should be…
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Hahaha. I love calling any Hallmark characters floozies.
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Oh, even Hallmark movies have their fair share!! 😂 I just watched one where 2 old biddies were arguing about letting a single mother’s children into her daycare. One was offering the other patties to let them in and she said “you think I’m that easy?” and the other says “I’ve known you for (x amount) years… I know what easy means to you!”, to which biddy #1 replies, “hey…. I married him. Didn’t I??” 😲😂😂
WHAAAA?? Are they advocating sex before marriage in Hallmark movies now?! What happened to “they won’t buy the cow, if they get the milk for free”?? (which also begs the question…. Why do we have to be the COW?! 🐄😂😂)
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That’s hilarious! I remember when characters couldn’t even kiss prior to engagement in Hallmark movies. What have we done?!?
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Ha ha!! Apparently even Hallmark movies have to progress with the times a little! 😅
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you know what i was thinking while i read all your questions? When i try to point out both sides of an argument, people call me the devil’s advocate. Do you get that too?
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Oh ya. I’m always playing on the other side of that fence!! Ha ha! They love it at my book club. But, I feel that every view should be represented before everyone settles… Plus, it’s more fun and makes for a better discussion this way.
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Ha, see the difference? i stopped playing on the other fence…. i actually stopped playing on either fence.
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Ha ha! Well, I just get rid of fences… They just keep people out anyways!
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I’ve pondered this a while now, and I think the best solution is for her to choose to stay in 1996, then be run over by a bus and killed. That way Scott can meet his new lovely lady and remain happy instead of being shacked up with a no-good bint who jilted him at the alter to put a career ahead of her relationship with him. Also any man in 2004 will not then be sucked into her shilly-shally ways.
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Ha ha!! I like the way you think!! It definitely seemed unfair that she got to live this side of the life, but because she would up the mistress to her married boss and unhappy with her situation all of a sudden she wants to say “wah wah, I should never have left Scott??” sorry lady. You made your floozy bed, and now you have to sleep in it!!
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Indeed! Girls like that give the rest of us a bad name! (Though I might have one of those already 😀 )
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Ha ha! Ya… I can’t say much either. Except that I had to LIVE WITH my past. I didn’t get a choice to change it.
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Me too. It all worked out for the best though so I won’t be phoning the 1st Mr.Fraggle or wishing on a christmas star! 🤣
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I didn’t have a 1st Mr… Drinketh? 🤔 But, my man had a 1st Mrs. Man when I came into the picture… Hopefully he won’t be wishing on a star for her! And I DEFINTITELY made my fair share of mistakes with prior long time beaus… But, it definitely seems to have worked out ok for me. 😅
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Cos we are 😎
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Damn straight! 😎😘
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I’m thinking that if she chooses to change history there is no decision for Scott to make. He doesn’t know about her choosing so he doesn’t suffer from the “but what about me” thoughts. I just hope she changes her ways and treats him better now when she has the chance. Maybe their life together doesn’t have to end up in misery? Maybe it’s actually a good thing for both? I mean, at some point they did live each other and had a good life.
As for memories… I don’t know. It would be best if they got new memories but I have a feeling it doesn’t work that way. On the other hand, isn’t it good that she has the old memories? That way she knows what will happen if she lets Scott down. But I hope he gets new happy memories. Ugh, it’s hard and confusing.
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I understand that Scott doesn’t understand that he may have lost something and he won’t be hurt because he won’t know about his prior life. But, does that make it ok?
The weird thing about the movie wasn’t that she retained the memories of her choice and her life before. That probably IS a good thing so she has something to learn from. The weird thing is that she DOESN’T have the memories of the last 8 new years that they spent together. She wakes up confused, than sees him and she’s happy they’re together. But, she starts learning things from him about what’s happened in their lives since she chose to go through with things…. Wouldn’t it be weird if your wife woke up one morning and had no recollection of your life together from your marriage on?? And wouldn’t it be terrible for her to have missed out on all this time? She would have grown and changed in that time, yet again, but in this morning she would have woken up and been that person from back in 1996 again!! He’d probably be like “dammit… I thought we busted that habit!” ha ha!!
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I don’t know if it makes it okey. Doesn’t it depend on the situation? If something horrible has happened then maybe. But yeah, one should probably just let life form without altering anything. What happens happens.
Yes, it sounds a bit confusing and strange that she doesn’t have any memories but then again, that is reality for some (for other reasons of course. My dad had a brain tumor and ended up in a coma for a week or so and when he woke up he had lost 10 years of his life. We had to go through every year from when I was 8 for him to catch up and he still doesn’t remember some things, 20 years later.) So Scott’s memories altered with her choice?
Well, it’s Hallmark, stranger movies have come from then. 😎
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Sorry to hear about your dad!! I hope he’s doing better.
Yes, Scotty remembered how things were in this altered reality, but she (of course) had to run around having a scrooge like epiphany “we’re together?” *looks out window* “and we love in my apartment in new York??”, etc.
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Oh, he’s mostly old now. 😎 He’s had two more brain surgeries after that one but those were a bit easier than the first one. But he’s doing fine, maybe a little confused at times but who knows what’s age and what’s brain tumor.
So incredibly annoying. But I suppose it fills a purpose. That is one of a few things i dislike in that kind of movie, the constant surprise moments. Like she’s an idiot.
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Well, it’s good to here that he’s doing better health wise in general, at least. My dad is getting the same way… He’s started forgetting things and telling us the same things over and over again. It started out kind of funny… Now, it’s starting to get less funny.. 😕
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I’m sorry about your dad. It is a bit scary because you realise how close to the end they are. I am already preparing for when that day comes. 😐
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My dad is always reminding me that he’s going to die and talking about it…. He’s a PSW and deals with it all the time, which has made him quite morbid.
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My mom refuses to realise she’s old. My dad has a more sober view of it. He knows he’s old and gonna die soon. He and I have talked about funerals and such because I want to know. I forced my mom to sit in on one of those conversations. That was interesting. When I threatened to play Metallica on her funeral she finally realised that maybe she has to think about it. I find it kind of comforting that they themselves talk about it. As you say, it might be a bit morbid. But rather that then complete denial.
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… Who DOESN’T want metallica at their funeral?? 🤔🤔 I thought that was what everyone does… You know, right after “On Eagle’s Wings”. 😂😂
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My dad used to work in the police with crime scene investigations which probably has made him a bit immune to death. He has seen plenty of murdered people in his day. It might also be why I look at it from this view, I have heard all his stories. you get numb after a while.
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Ya. I’m in a whole family of medical professionals on my man’s side, and PSWs on my side… I’ve heard it all. My dad also has a morbid sense of humour. When I was younger he would put on chap stick that he said he stole from one of his dead clients and would chase me around threatening to kiss me after putting it on… Probably explains why I’m so weird. 😅
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Oooh, Nicole, you may be overthinking this a bit and giving me a headache. I hope all is well with you.
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Ha ha ha!!! I have the tendency to do that, Robbie. Most of the time I can take these movies for what they are… Sometimes, I just can’t help myself! Maybe, when I question things in life it gets me questioning things in everything. 😉 I hope everything is great with you!! 💖
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Absolutely, I am on leave
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.. On leave in a good way, I hope?? 🤔
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You raise an excellent point. But it’s pretty much the same across all Hallmark movies. Of course Scott doesn’t matter! Only what she wants. Is that right or wrong? Who knows? These movies are so fluffy on one hand and then on the other you can drive yourself crazy with the philosophical questions!
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Isn’t it funny that such shallow fluff can cause such moral quandaries to fester in my soul?? 😂😂 Sadly, this is part 1 for a reason… There are too many questions! 😅🤔
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I’m with Gemma and Hallmark. I was actually thinking pretty much the same thing: Hallmark and its trademark movies. BTW I enjoy binging on them as well, especially the Christmas ones. 😂😂😂
Those philosophical questions are hilarious though, maybe we could do a Hallmark version of Butterfly Effect… 😊 Just to see what would happen….. 😈
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My guess is Scott isn’t as wonderful as she remembers him to be, she needs just to stay in the present day and MoveOn!
But that is a lot of deep thinking for a Hallmark movie! LOL💚❄️
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She probably could have!! It might have been a better movie if she left Scott alone and just moved on in her life and proved that she was good at whatever she did in her job even if she wasn’t sleeping with the boss!!
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I missed this post… Went back to it… I can honestly say I have no idea about the movie… You are not helping me after I set up my TV after a year…. 😂 😂
But I don’t want to go back in my past… I had bad times… I want to close that chapter and get on with my life… Oh that’s one of my new year’s resolution… Other is getting Netflix… But now I am not sure… You are making it easy to shut my TV
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This isn’t on Netflix.. Although, there was other Hallmark movies on there. It doesn’t mean you have to WATCH them. Ha ha! There are also thousands of other things on there!
I agree with you about not going back. I just think that it’s dumb in general because the things that happen and the choices we make, make us who we are today… If you go back and change something (especially something this big) it would start a chain reaction and you would never wake up 8 years later the same person…. It makes no sense.
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Hahahahahahahaha.
Dob;t judge Netflix by this. Lol. There’s lots of other cheesy crap actually on Netflix already. But there’s also loads of good stuff too. Or so I’m lead to believe… I barely have time to actually watch it.
And by the way…. why doesn’t Scott get a choice???? Poor Scott, is my takeaway from that whole drama. Lol
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EXACTLY!! To both the Netflix thing, and the poor Scott. It’s almost like we’re lead to believe that because Scott doesn’t remmeber the life he had before this one is fine…. But, what did he lose?!? 🤔
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Hmph. Lol
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Well…as usual…this is one heck of a coincidence. As you know I have been watching a lot of Arrow/Flash and othe shows in that same universe. And…recently The Flash at the end of season 2, travelled back in time to save his mother from a horrible death. His mother was saved, but by doing that the timeline was drastically altered and a lot of other people because of that decision were made very unhappy. Eventually…the Flash had to go back again in time and let his mother be killed to restore the timeline.
So…in other words….I think changing time just for yourself, might be bad. Too many lives might be influenced by it. I have made a lot of bad decisions in my life, and I think we all have days where we might want to go back and restore those decisions and take a different route. In the end though…we sometimes get stronger by making bad decisions as well. So…they become a part of you and I don’t think I would have that changed for anything. Well…how is that for a philosphy lesson early in the morning lol 😂😂 Great post by the way 😊😊
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I said something similar to someone else in the comments… Shalini, maybe? I don’t remember. But, every mistake made in life contributes to who you are today. If you went back and changed that YOU would also wake up a completely different person, not only those around you!
And I can’t imagine you making ANY bad decisions! I call BS on that! 🤣
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Ha…oh trust me, I have made plenty of bad decisions in my life. Doesn’t change the fact that I made them, and even if I could I would in all likelyhood not change them. As you say…I would probably wake up a completely different person. And I’m already pretty weird, so who knows how that would end.
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